It’s Not Fair: Thoughts on Childbearing…

So one of our good friends literally broke my heart today with her Facebook update. They were expecting a baby and were beyond excited (as anyone should be). They had visited us recently and were nearly giddy with the joy of the thought of having a baby. I received her Facebook status update today while working and this is what it said:

“Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my baby on my lap and tell them about you, but since I didn’t get the chance, would you please hold them on your lap and tell them about us? “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” -Matthew 5:4″

Suffice to say it only took reading the first couple of words before I started tearing up. I know that doesn’t fit with the big, bad, macho fireman reputation that I’m supposed to have. I blame it completely on my kids. Ever since we had our kids I’ve turned into a complete softy when it comes to bad news about kids, or people hurting. I felt like I was going to be sick to my stomach. I was literally hurting because while I can’t fully grasp it, I can only imagine how bad they must be hurting during this time. Even with the pain she must be going through, the amazing faith that they have as a couple was bleeding through. After several people had commented on her status with well wishes and mentioning that they would be praying for them as a couple she commented an amazing statement:

Thanks for the Support & Love. No need to feel sorry for us. God gives blessings in all forms of life. We consider it a blessing to have gotten pregnant. Please continue to pray for us as we go through the process of becoming parents! XOXO

Wow! What maturity and deep faith in the abiding love and grace found in Christ did she show with this comment. I was amazed and humbled by her statement and thankful that because of their dependence on Christ they would be able to make it through this time in their life.

This news got me to thinking about the unfairness that we deal with in this life. It’s completely unfair that there are couples all over this world that are desperate to have kids, and are unable to do so. In our personal life we have two such couples, both amazing Christians, both that would make terrific parents, but yet they have been unable thus far to have kids. One couple is a little older, while this couple is a young couple. It’s unfair that they can’t have kids, all the while over 3,000 babies in the U.S. are legally murdered every day. (That’s a topic for another post on another day).

It’s simply not fair, but that is the state of the world that we live in. We live in a world that has suffered from the effects of the fall of man from the Garden of Eden. Because of that, bad things happen. Sometimes life really sucks. (I can say that because my kids can’t read my blog!) It doesn’t make sense to us, and many times we can’t understand the rationale for why it happens. However, for a Christian there is still hope even in a world that’s not fair, and where bad things happen. There is hope that even when things simply don’t make any sense at all that we can rest in the knowledge that God is in control. Even when it seems like our lives are spinning out of control, we can be assured that He is still in charge. There’s not an easy answer to someone going through a crisis such as this couple other than to trust. Just trust in the sufficiency of Christ, and in His grace and tender mercies to get you through. It’s a thought that we could all stand to remember…

-Soli Deo Gloria!

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