What’s the Deal With Gay People?

Odds are many of you are probably already mad right now- just by reading the title to this post.

Others only clicked on it because of the title…you have fallen victim to a little link bait. I would be lying if I said I was sorry…since you are already here, you might as well stay and read the rest of the post.

I wanted to return to Pot Stirring Tuesday today, and while I started to string together a post about beer/gays/church taxes/unicorns/politics to make a lot of people mad- that’s not really my intent with stirring the pot.

I stir the pot not to make as many people mad as I can, but to make you think a little. To force you to think about what it is you believe, and why it is that you believe it.

So, on to today’s post: Gay people. Specifically Gay people and the Christian (and the Church) response.

A few disclaimers:

  • I’m going to use “gay” instead of “homosexual” frankly because it is shorter and easier to type. I mean absolutely no disrespect by the term.
  • When I saw “church” I am not necessarily talking about my church, your church, or any church I have been to. I am using it generically to speak of the “church” as a whole.
  • If you are looking for a fight on gay people, or gay marriage, you have came to the wrong post. Not the topic for the day…maybe one day in the future.

Something has been bothering me for awhile now when it comes to churches and gay people. Mainly that most gay people would not be welcomed into many churches.

The church has for years claimed to be a place where everyone is welcome, and has done a great job of reaching out consistently to those considered “down and out” and those rejected by society. In my mind however, there is one “group” of people that has not been treated the same by the church.

That “group” (for lack of a better term) is gay people. I can understand some of the awkwardness, in fact I have felt much of the same awkwardness in my life when around gay people. At least I used to.

What changed that for me? Being around someone who was gay. Seeing that she was a regular person, just like me. A person with real life problems, with real life concerns. (In case you are wondering- she did not even get any “gay” on me).

Being around her has broadened my horizons quite a bit. I have stopped viewing gay people as someone who was less than me, or someone to stay away from (in case they tried to get any gay on me), to someone I could be a friend with. It is a strange relationship that we have, it is almost comical to think about- the hardcore conservative Southern Baptist being friends with a gay person. But this relationship (in my mind) comes much closer to the Gospel than how many treat gay people.

Guess what- I have not changed any of my convictions or beliefs about gay people, but the relationship we have has shown that it is possible for two people with radically different beliefs (ones that are deeply held- and not likely to change, ever) can in fact be friends.

It is time that the church adopts a similar strategy.

You can be a liar, thief, murderer, prostitute, kidnapper, and be welcome at church. Gay people? Not so much.

Why is that?

I do not know. I think that part of it is that “Christians” are quick to realize their failings- they are liars, thiefs, drunks…the list goes on. But for many- being gay is not something they deal with. So therefore- they are better than the gay people. They may not be mentally thinking this (some may be) but by their actions they are acting this way.

The church should be a place where everyone is welcomed with open arms. Where people can come in and feel welcome, no matter what they wear, what they look like, what they smell like, or what they believe.

It does not mean that the church has to believe, or support, everything these people believe, but they must welcome them.

We must all remember that the biggest problem that each visitor has when they come into the church is not their addictions, it is not their lifestyle, it is not any of their misdeeds. Their biggest problem is a sin problem. If anyone (or any group) is rejected from being welcome into the church then the church loses the opportunity to share the Gospel with them, and to show them that their greatest need is Christ.

Our greatest problem can only be dealt with by pointing to Christ and His finished work for us done on the Cross.

For that to happen everyone must be welcome to come into the church.

For a church (or for you or me) to function any other way is to lose credibility with the world we are trying to reach.

0 Replies to “What’s the Deal With Gay People?”

  1. Nice. I’m on the same page as you. Before we moved here from San Diego, we had a ton of gay friends, and it always strikes me as wrong that “the church” can be more accepting of a murderer or practicing adulterer than someone who’s only sin is being born a little different. I can only imagine what church would be like if the bible said “black” or “woman” instead of gay. My 2 cents.

  2. I asked my mom at her previous church how would they treat a gay person that walked in to their church. She told me they would shun them. UGH!! REALLY?? I lost a lot of respect for that church to say the least. Yes, we don’t need to agree with the lifestyle but we do need to love everyone and not judge others. Also, aren’t all sins judged the same?? Aren’t we all sinners?? What makes me any better than them?? Great post!!

  3. @Karen…even though I know many – if not most – churches are like that, it still never fails to surprise me somehow. And it breaks my heart. If Jesus were literally on earth right now…. He would have dinner at their homes and hang out with them and talk to them like the real, live PEOPLE they actually are…people created in HIS image, people who, like everyone else, deserve to be treated with RESPECT and DIGNITY and LOVE; people that He loves dearly, just as He loves you and me and every other person on the planet.

    Oh wait…I forgot. Jesus DOES, in fact, walk on the earth today via His church –> that’s *US — His followers – are HIS BODY. WE are to be reaching out, embracing all who come seeking the Lord….treating others – even “sinners” with kindness, respect, dignity and acceptance (as in, accept the person right where they are now, and love them like a real friend and watch God work in their lives…just as He has ours). WE are HIS body…His hands, His feet…we are to be the expression of HIS heart on this earth…loving, giving, serving…. EVERYONE.

    Seems to me, the only people that I can recall Jesus being angry at and lashing out at were…well, gee…the RELIGIOUS PEOPLE who felt that they were holy, and that “sinners” were vile pond scum…amoebas on pond scum….and not worth their time. Jesus got awful PO’d at THOSE folks…and then went to hang out with the sinners….who were probably much more fun, anyway. 😉

    /End Rant (sorry, things like this really set me off. Jesus said LOVE. So…go love. 🙂 )

  4. I agree wholeheartedly. In God’s view, all sin is horrible and very ugly. No one person’s sin is better than the supposed worse sins of others. We ALL must admit that we are EQUALLY guilty of sin before God. Christ died for EVERYONE. Our instinct is to see others and ourselves through the lens of self-orientation: self-righteousness and the subjective reality of our environment/culture (i.e. our personal experiences and perceptions).

    Why is homosexuality singled out? I’ll quote another blogger who gets it too, “What people don’t make any effort to understand, they fear. The ‘gay’ community is an easy target.”

    We are not accepting, agreeing with or endorsing sin. The point is grace, truth and love. Loving others involves grace and consideration. It also involves seeking to understand and acknowledge their feelings and circumstances. Thanks for this post!

    1. Darrell,

      You’re spot on with your assessment. Homosexuality is no different of a sin than any other sin. To love/accept/include homosexuals in our love and friendship is not to endorse the sin. It is however, an extension of Christ, and His grace to do so. Thanks for coming by the blog!


  5. Reblogged this on Same-Sex Attractions and commented:
    Even though I’m an introverted and quiet person, I have the tendency to get a bit too enthusiastic, detailed and long-winded in my writing and presentations. On occasion my style overwhelms and intimidates some people and I often find myself apologizing. In many circumstances, a long and learned treatise or explanation is not required to communicate a needed message.

    I admire Kris’ short and straightforward post because of his willingness to say something and speak out. To simply acknowledge the church’s hardness and resistance (in general) toward LGBT individuals. To give us a glimpse into his personal experience and concerns. As he alludes to, we (Christians, the church) must be open, credible and relevant.

    When I shared my intention to use Kris’ post in this blog, a couple of people remarked, “He’s stating the obvious”. My response? “That’s the point. What may be obvious to you may not be obvious to someone else.” Gay people (or individuals who experience same-sex attractions) may have not been a concern to some (or one) of Kris’ readers until he mentioned it. His post may be a catalyst for further discussion or change in his community, in his church or within his circle of influence. His message may be a seed of information, hope or reassurance to lonely, self-assured, questioning and honest individuals – all at the same time

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